Triple P Top tips for parents and carers of children age 2-11

Positive attention: When your child wants to show you something, stop what you are doing and pay  attention to your child. It is important to spend frequent, small amounts of time with your child doing things that you both enjoy.

Physical affection: Give your child lots of physical affection – children often like hugs, cuddles and holding hands. Physical affection helps children develop and become comfortable with intimacy.

Sharing is caring: Talk to your child about things he/she is interested in and share aspects of your day with your child. This helps promote vocabulary and further social skills.

Praise and encouragement: Give your child lots of descriptive praise when they do something that you would like to see more of,   e.g. “Thank you for doing what I asked straight away”.

Boundaries: Set clear limits on your child’s behaviour. Sit down and have a family discussion on the rules in the home.  Let your child know what the consequences will be if they break the rules.

Keep calm: If your child misbehaves, stay calm and give them a clear instruction to stop misbehaving and tell them what you would like them to do instead (e.g., “Stop fighting; play nicely with each other.” Praise your child if they stop.  If they do not stop, follow through with an appropriate consequence.


Triple P top tips for parents and carers of teenagers

Set a good example: Be the kind of adult you want your teenager to become. Really think about what you do and say (and how you say it) every day.

Pick your battles: Try to avoid knee-jerk or instinctive reactions especially if you often disagree. Rather than react immediately, pause to think about whether the issue is important in the long term, and other ways to respond.

Teach risk-evaluation skills: Prompt your teenager to think about potentially risky situations in advance, and to consider the likely outcomes of various choices. Ask ‘what if’ questions and help them to come up with possible options and action plans.

Stay in touch: Have regular positive conversations about day to day activities so you know what your teenager is doing. Keep up to date with new technology. Ask them to show you what they’re interested in and how it works.

Be a safe sounding board: Teenagers’ emotions are often intense and they’re struggling to find their place in the world. Encourage them to discuss new ideas and values at home, without rejection or ridicule. Help them figure out problems and possibilities.

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